As Terry and I share our story about our 3 miscarriages, I am repeatedly surprised about how many women respond with the words, “Me too.” Some may be new acquaintances but sometimes these words come from women I have known for years, and had no idea of their loss. We don’t want anyone to suffer in silence anymore. It’s our desire to remove the stigma of embarrassment or shame of losing a child and encourage hurting moms and dads to talk about their pain.

You know the routine…couples don’t share the news of their pregnancy until after the “Danger Zone,” the first trimester. Why? Just in case “something happens.” Well, what if something does happen? What if the child is miscarried? The couple proceeds to heal, grieve and suffer alone, or worse, they run from the pain and don’t heal at all. It can be very lonely.

But what if we were to talk about it? Is it too painful? Is it too awkward? I hope not. I hope we can be a support of love and comfort to loved ones who have lost a child so they don’t have to walk the journey alone.

It’s OK to grieve. It’s OK to mourn. It’s OK to admit that you loved your child with all of your heart during that short time he or she was with you. And it’s OK to talk about it.

If you don’t have someone you can share your heartbreak with, know that you have a loving Father who is with you always and is always listening, because He understands what it’s like to lose a child. He is the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.